My heart hurts this morning. I read some comments on my Facebook page on a thread about marriage equality, and people were getting into a religious discussion. That’s fine, I encourage my readers to share their thoughts, beliefs, and ideas, even if they’re different from my own.
The thing is, the discussion became an attack at some points, and I received several private messages from people hurt by some of the comments.
I was hurt, too.
This is the photo I posted of my son yesterday, with the caption: “I genuinely hope Levi speaks for his generation.”
A couple comments in particular really bothered me. And they came from both sides of the argument.
I don’t have a problem with people who hold strong beliefs and want to share them. I think that’s awesome. I do have a problem when people use religion, politics, or whatever else to attack someone else’s beliefs.
I also have a problem with people who make snarky comments that belittle others. The one that prompted this post? “I’ll pray for you.”
As a Christian, I pray for lots of people. I have a prayer board and once a week I update it so I don’t forget to include people that have requested I think of them. When I tell someone I’m sending up prayers for them, I do that in a loving, genuine way.
There are others that use the exact same words, but they use them as a weapon to prove their point. Being snarky about saying “I’ll pray for you” just to prove your point kind of ruins it for the rest of us. Then other hurtful statements start rolling, such as “I don’t need your prayers” “Your prayers don’t accomplish anything anyway” and other negative things.
To be honest, at this point, I’m not really sure where I’m going with this post. I’m just hurt by the lack of respect I see when discussions get heated, and the retaliation other people seem to think is necessary.
I don’t expect everyone to get along and agree. That wouldn’t be much fun.
But it would be really cool if we could all act like adults when we have conversations, whether online or off. Want to pray for someone? Great, pray. You probably don’t need to announce it if you don’t think they’d appreciate it anyway. Don’t want someone to pray for you? You can’t control what they do anyway, so a simple Thank You, Ok, or even silence would probably be a good route to take.
End rant. (For now.)