Heck Yeah I Bought My Son A Dollhouse

Last week I bought my son this Little Tikes dollhouse. It’s awesome. It even came with a barn.

Little Tikes Dollhouse

I don’t think dollhouses are just for girls. Or play kitchens, for that matter.

Levi loves to imitate what Jason and I are doing. Why not give him more opportunities to do that and use his imagination to play?

Playing With His Dollhouse

Someone actually asked me if I was trying to make my kid gay. Um, no. But if he was, I’d love and support him anyway. Ignoring stereotypes doesn’t make my son gay or straight – it makes him a toddler that hasn’t learned the ignorance of some people in this world.

I still remember the post from Nerdy Apple about her son and his Halloween costume that she wrote back in 2010. She shared this adorable photo of him dressed up like Daphne, his favorite Scooby Doo character:

I love what she had to say about it.

And all I hope for my kids, and yours, and those of Moms ABC, are that they are happy. If a set of purple sparkly tights and a velvety dress is what makes my baby happy one night, then so be it. If he wants to carry a purse, or marry a man, or paint fingernails with his best girlfriend, then ok. My job as his mother is not to stifle that man that he will be, but to help him along his way. Mine is not to dictate what is ‘normal’ and what is not, but to help him become a good person.


I hope I am doing that.


And my little man worked that costume like no other. He rocked that wig, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.

How can you not agree? I’m not going to worry about what Levi wears or plays with, as long as it makes him happy. (And, of course, isn’t hurtful to himself or others.) I don’t think playing with a dollhouse will make him gay anymore than dressing up as Spiderman will make him shoot webs out of his wrist.

The thing that saddens me most is this pervasive desire some people have to judge others. Sadie over at Slap Dash Mom recently wrote a post about how short hair doesn’t make her daughter a lesbian. Our kids are still little. They don’t know what their sexual orientation is yet. In fact, they probably think everyone has cooties.

How about we quit judging and jumping to conclusions and embrace our kids’ personalities and imaginations?


  1. I couldn’t agree with you more! As long as our children are happy, that’s all that really matters! And if other people do not agree, then they really need to learn to not be so judgmental!

  2. I love that you bought him his own dollhouse! I love that my son rocks his very pink Dora the Explorer backpack. I love that my daughter is the strongest one in her kung fu class.

    Kids are kids. They want to play and learn and have fun!

  3. I’m still having a hard time wrapping my mind around the fact that someone would ask you if you’re trying to make your son gay.

    Apparently they have never seen their child behind closed doors – every boy plays with dolls and every girl plays with plastic green army men.

    My son got a pink race car – does that make him gay because it’s pink? Um no. He’s playing with a toy. That’s all it is…a toy.

    Being an overprotective freak will probably turn their child gay.

    Oh and for the record, I use to dress my little brothers up in girls clothes and make up – neither one are gay.

  4. Caitlin says:

    I am so glad we’re friends! You are exactly of the same mindset I am. Kids are kids. They only know like and dislike. Its us, as grown ups, who start pressuring boy and girl and other nonsense. 🙁

  5. People are dumb, I can’t believe it is 2012 and this is still an issue, ya know?

  6. Excellent post! I am sure Levi is enjoying your purchase – and having a mommy that allows him to avoid stereotypes and play with whatever the heck he wants! My son has a play kitchen and he loves it. Never would I think about not buying him a toy simply because it’s “girly”…

  7. That…is…AWESOME!!! People do realize that you can’t “turn” someone gay right??? Ugh, the ignorance.

  8. Good for you! I wouldn’t think twice about getting my son a dollhouse either if it’s something that he wanted to play with, or a play kitchen. Men cook and are part of families so what’s the issue? I don’t get it. My now 12 year old had a couple of Barbies when he was little. So?

  9. “I don’t think playing with a dollhouse will make him gay anymore than dressing up as Spiderman will make him shoot webs out of his wrist.”

    LOL… I love it! And I totally agree with you… not that you need my approval. 😉

  10. We were at a birthday party at a bounce house place that also has toys this past Sunday. Landon, my almost 3 year old, spent like 30 mins playing with a doll house. Then his 5 year old brother came along and was playing with him. It’s so adorable. I saw nothing wrong with it! What the heck is wrong with people to think that boys playing with dolls is going to make them gay? I think it makes them well rounded!

  11. Good for you mama!! I get those comments from my MIL about how letting my son play with Barbies or laughing when he shrieks with joy to wear the princess dress up shoes. It’s sad that these same people are inhibiting their child’s imagination by preventing lots more opportunities pretend play. 🙁

  12. Sure thing. I bought my son a doll house – a regular fixture in our living room. I also have bought him babydolls – some of his most prized “guys” and a couple sleep in the crib with him. He is two and LOVES his babies just like I love him! I am rockin’ out with my boy whether he plays babies, doll house, trucks or with creepy-crawlies. We make mudpies and on occasion a baby doll has been known to join us (as well as for the bath afterward)

  13. Good for you! I feel that not letting them play with dolls and other typical “girl toys” is much like not letting them help you wash dishes, clothes, clean house, etc. These are roles and skills they need to explore and learn to succeed in life.

    Hey, where did you get your dollhouse & accessories? I recently bought that same dollhouse (without accessories) at a thrift shop and am hoping to add accessories to it for my daughter for Christmas. The main place I’ve found the pieces so far is eBay. It’s from around 1982! 🙂

  14. Geez, my girls play with monster trucks, dinosuars (OMG THEY ARE NUTS FOR DINOS) and work on the trucks with daddy. These predetermined gender roles imposed by society are ridiculous. Kudos to you, and I hope Levi gets plenty of joy from the doll house. The Huz played with his big sister’s Barbie dolls and he turned out just fine.

  15. I think people need to remember that children are NOT sexual beings….they are CHILDREN for God’s sake! My boys LOVE Dora…does that mean they’re gay? NO, it means they enjoy a TV show that has a little girl as the main character. If Drake asked me for Dora underwear, I’d buy it. It’s UNDERWEAR. Also, the boys love to play with Sierra’s dolls. Let’s face it…girls toys are sometimes WAY more fun than trucks. Sierra also would rather be outside playing in the mud, swimming in the creek, and doing it with a bunch of guys than playing with the little girls here who are obsessed with Justin Bieber. Is she gay? I dunno, but if she is, she’s still MY DAUGHTER. I love her regardless of her sexual orientation. My love does not come with limitations when it comes to my children. And as for what they want to play with? They could all switch bedrooms and play with each other’s toys, dress in opposite gender clothing, and I’m STILL their MOM! The toys I buy for my children are my choice. Not some idiot next door’s choice. UGH…

    /end rant AGAIN! lmao

  16. Michelle says:

    That is so cool, I love the barn. Grr the gay comments, some people are so stupid!!!! If people still think you can influence or choose your sexual orientation then they need to go and get some education. Have a great weekend 🙂 x

  17. I cannot even believe that someone ACTUALLY said that to you! I thought people actually claiming you’d turn your kid gay was an urban myth. You are much more zen than me; I think I might throw a punch if someone said that to me.

    I LOVE that dollhouse. I’ll buy the exact same one if I can find it!

  18. I see nothing wrong with a boy playing with a dollhouse – it’s the same thing as a girl playing with a truck. TOYS ARE TOYS. Period.

  19. i think it’s great you got your son a doll house! idon’t think it will ‘turn’ him gay. if my son wanted one i wouldn’t have a problem with that.

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