A heated debate on my Facebook page led to a snarky (funny) discussion with Trisha from MomDot on what bad parents we are. I still think she wins, but I had to try to top her.
I’m a crappy mom.
Here are all the things I do to screw up my kid:
I hug him every day.
I kiss his boo-boos.
I use cloth diapers.
I breastfed him for a year.
I supplemented with formula.
I use disposables at night because it’s easier than finding a cloth diaper that works.
I let him eat dinner without washing his hands first.
I follow a regular vaccination schedule.
I teach him to dance to Slipknot as often as Miley Cyrus.
I cosleep.
I let him bring a sippy cup to bed with him at night.
I use positive parenting techniques instead of physical discipline.
I don’t disinfect his toys.
I chose (with my husband) to have him circumcised as an infant.
I keep him rear-facing even though he’s two years old. And I’d probably do it forever if I could.
I taught him not to lick the windows instead of paying to test them for lead paint.
I drop everything when I come home to say hello and make sure he knows I am happy to see him.
I skip brushing his teeth if he’s already fallen asleep on the way home.
I wash all of his clothes separately so I can use special laundry soap to avoid additives and chemicals.
I try to use natural or organic products around the house.
I let him mix his food however he wants.
I teach him about God.
These are all things I do as a parent. I don’t feel the need to defend or justify my actions. I am happy to talk with others about my parenting style, philosophy, or decisions, because I know being a mom (or dad) is tough, and sometimes it’s helpful to hear how other people are doing things.
I don’t care if some people think the things listed above make me a “crappy” mom.
I am Levi’s mom.
What matters to me is that he feels loved, safe, and nurtured.
So far, I think I’m doing alright.
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You’re doin awesome mama.
Wow, I love your blog. I have learned from your blog. Toss the old fuddy duddys out and accept the new and improved way of life. U R A GOOOD MOMMMMMMMM
I think you sound like an AWESOME Mom!
I’m a crappy Mom because when I set rules I make my children follow them or deal with the pre warned consequences (one is 16 the other is now 27 so he doesn’t have to follow my rules anymore…lol)
i enjoyed this post!!! im a crappy mom too lol i can relate
You sound the opposite of crappy to me. Let the haters hate. All we do is the best we can, and our kids never tell us it’s not good enough. You rock!
Good for you! I’m a crappy Mom too. Let us crappy Mothers unite!!
YOU are a great mom. I’m sick of mommy wars and I’ve been one for 21+ yrs to four kids. No one is perfect in anything they do. All we can do is try our best. What happened to encouraging each other and building each other up instead of tearing each other down? Life is hard enough as it is to get worked up over such things. Don’t we have better things to do with our time, energy and emotions? We’re all moms in this together. Supporting each other seems like it would be the better route to go. =)
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“I taught him not to lick the windows…”
Bwahahahahahahahahahahaha!!!! Love.
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After reading some of the comments on Facebook earlier, I feel like us moms need to focus less on what someone else is doing wrong with their children and actually use that energy to show our children how much they actually mean to us! Thanks for the great post!
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I think that God chose to give YOU Levi. I think God chose to give me my daughters. I think when all is said and done, we each have to answer for the important aspects of raising our children. Did we teach them to love others? Did we teach them to share with those less fortunate? Did we teach them right from wrong? Who gives patooty about what diapers you use? If he eats with dirty hands? Or if he snuggles next to the one that birthed him. I must be a REALLY CRAPPY Mom, especially since my 13 year-old loves to climb in my bed after having a bad dream and snuggle. Heck, I wish she still snuggled w/o the bad dream! <3
PS… I have been known to let my kids have ice cream before dinner. *GASP*
God Bless you Jen.
Yep I’m a crappy mom too, I made sure I was with them at the mall instead of dropping them of, if I say I’m going to do something I follow through, I have taught them to contribute to society rather than be a burden.I think we need more crappy parents like us.
You are not a crappy mom….as long as you are doing what you need to to make your child feel happy and secure…….your not a crappy mom. I hate women who “judge” other women on how they raise their kids……..I didn’t ask anyone to raise my children so, If I do it MY WAY and my kids grow up to be happy, healthy adults……I don’t need anyone else’s judgement. The only one with a right to “judge” me IS god and maybe my children
I may not be perfect (and who among us is??) but, I did it MY WAY and, my children are now pretty well adjusted and decent young adults. One is 15 & one 17 and about to graduate high school. That’s right, I’m such a crappy mom I have a 17 yr. old Daughter who made it all the way through school without getting pregnant (thank god) or hooked on drugs. She had her “rough years” but again, we all do. She is now a Senior in high school who is Class president, student council president, head of the prom committee and editor of the yearbook!! (I probably forgot something, I’m such a bad mom. lol) She worked hard to get where she is and I am more proud of her for that than if it had just been “given” to her. In my opinion……that’s all that matters. My son is a freshman in high school in honors courses (don’t know where those brains came from) and on his way to earning college credits before he even gets out of high school. This to me, proves I did something right and it means more than anything any “judgemental mother who thinks she’s better than I am” could ever say to me. The proof is in the kids
You keep doing what your doing….your kids will be fine.
Amen! We need to each do what works for us and our families. There is no one right way to parent. We’ll all get flack from SOMEONE about pretty much anything we do.
I let my 3mo son fall asleep nursing if that’s what he needs. I take him into my bed for afternoon naps sometimes. We got him circumcised. I kiss him at least 500 times a day. I leave him in his daytime cloth diaper if he falls asleep on the way home instead of waking him to change. I plan on ebf’ing for a year and not even thinking about any solids until at least 6 months. I pick him up when he cries no matter what anyone tries to tell me about spoiling him.
Thanks for sharing and being honest. I don’t know if I could do that.
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