Last week I bought my son this Little Tikes dollhouse. It’s awesome. It even came with a barn.
I don’t think dollhouses are just for girls. Or play kitchens, for that matter.
Levi loves to imitate what Jason and I are doing. Why not give him more opportunities to do that and use his imagination to play?
Someone actually asked me if I was trying to make my kid gay. Um, no. But if he was, I’d love and support him anyway. Ignoring stereotypes doesn’t make my son gay or straight – it makes him a toddler that hasn’t learned the ignorance of some people in this world.
I still remember the post from Nerdy Apple about her son and his Halloween costume that she wrote back in 2010. She shared this adorable photo of him dressed up like Daphne, his favorite Scooby Doo character:
I love what she had to say about it.
And all I hope for my kids, and yours, and those of Moms ABC, are that they are happy. If a set of purple sparkly tights and a velvety dress is what makes my baby happy one night, then so be it. If he wants to carry a purse, or marry a man, or paint fingernails with his best girlfriend, then ok. My job as his mother is not to stifle that man that he will be, but to help him along his way. Mine is not to dictate what is ‘normal’ and what is not, but to help him become a good person.
I hope I am doing that.
And my little man worked that costume like no other. He rocked that wig, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
How can you not agree? I’m not going to worry about what Levi wears or plays with, as long as it makes him happy. (And, of course, isn’t hurtful to himself or others.) I don’t think playing with a dollhouse will make him gay anymore than dressing up as Spiderman will make him shoot webs out of his wrist.
The thing that saddens me most is this pervasive desire some people have to judge others. Sadie over at Slap Dash Mom recently wrote a post about how short hair doesn’t make her daughter a lesbian. Our kids are still little. They don’t know what their sexual orientation is yet. In fact, they probably think everyone has cooties.
How about we quit judging and jumping to conclusions and embrace our kids’ personalities and imaginations?
Heck yeah I bought my son a dollhouse! (and I’d appreciate if you didn’t question my parenting) ow.ly/biTYu
— Jen J. (@LifeWithLevi) June 1, 2012